My Thoughts
My personal blog
I’ll be writing here about the things that go through my head: my life, hobbies, relationships, current events, and many other topics.
My book – ‘Ex’d out’
In 2012 I published this book. It’s a chronological journal representing many changes that occurred in my life, spirituality, and relationships.
About John
I’ve had an interesting life. I’ve compiled some of those details here.
My most recent articles
National Coming Out Day – 2021
National Coming Out Day 2021 – Anniversary of life When I was in high school, all I wanted was to find someone with whom I could have a significant relationship. I met a girl that I was head over heels in love with. I was just 15 years old. She was a very special...
40 Years Of Shame and Guilt
I was walking on the track with a friend today. He asked about how I was in some general terms then he said, "John, so how are things with Grace Rivers?" I was quickly drawn to a conversation I had just yesterday with a man who had contacted us after he read through...
A Life Lost
Throughout the years I was involved in leadership with ExGay ministries those in the LBGT community often said that we were causing suicides. I often dismissed their accusations, as I perceived them to be attempts only to discredit our work. Last week, January 2016,...
June 6, 2005 – Love In Action Protest Anniversary
Today is the 18th anniversary of the "infamous" protest of the Love In Action program for LGBTQ youth. Monday morning, June 6th, 2005 numerous protestors came to the new to us campus in Memphis, TN to say they were there to support a youth called "Zack" who's parents...
Trauma from Conversion Therapy
My heart has been heavy the last couple of days. I'm overwhelmed with the number of LBGTQ people who are suffering with the effects of PTSD in their current life. I began to evaluate my own life while talking with my husband, Larry, last night. Damn, just the...
Experiencing Church Culture – We’re all different.
I attended a church service last night at a new church plant near where we live. I sat in the front row, because that is where the only seats were available. I haven’t been to a church other than the one we attend weekly in a very long time. They were setting up the...
Unhealthy Church Counseling
Religious counseling through pastors/church counselors seems to always find a way to hide from legal ethics. There is an entitlement to freedom that lives within it. I’ve heard many pastoral counselors say things like, “We submit to a higher authority and we...
Was Love In Action Double Minded?
Since the film “Boy Erased” has been released I have had many conversations with people who were involved with Love In Action, the ExGay ministry that is the focus of the film. I’ve read quite a few comments that have questioned whether or not the film was an...
Wedding Venue Says NO!
A Dallas wedding venue, "The Venue at Waterstone" said "no" to a gay couple. Their website says they serve any bride and a groom "whether or not they share our beliefs." Any man and woman desiring to join together and make public this most sacred covenant, whether or...
ExGay Leaders Come Out and The Critics Say!
This last week two men came out saying they were going to live publically as gay men. One was a friend I’ve known for over fifteen years. The other I hadn’t met until recently. Their stories were posted on their FaceBook profiles. They spoke of having been involved in...